whats next?

Hi,

Im stoping for my ex to see our daughter.Last week he took her from nursery came to a house.I was offering for him to stay till dinner time so he could read bed time story to little one.But my daughter said she doesnt want him to do that.Anyway he wasnt happy about it.After other few words he got all abusive,shouting scaring me and our daughter.
Its one of reasons why we are divorsing.He drinks (he came all stinking of alkohol),and he is abusive,shouting and ect.I did call police once.
So I stoped contact for now.He said he put me to court for contact.I do believe that he would do that.Can I ask court for residental order?(ex agree that daughter live with me)Can I ask that contact would be limited to little one? Like no night stays,and maybe that third person would be involved.as she is scared of him,every time after seeing him she is different child.
Thanks 4 answers.

You should if possible I think try to communicate with him, in a positive way asking him to stop with this sort of behaviour and explain the affect that it has on your child, so you can both work together to provide a loving caring situation that both of you provide seperated to your little girl. She is the most important aspect of your situation.

You could even try family mediation services to help out.

If that cant be agreed then you might need to consider an interdict.

If you are worried about your safety and want to be abuse free. The only real option you have if he refuses to stop is to seek a interdict. A lawyer can arrange the paperwork and an interim would be granted fairly quickly until things get sorted out.

This would be an order on him to stop abusing you.

As far as what sort of order a court would grant, I could not really comment.

But I would imagine that he would be able to get a contact order, your lawyer and his would discuss the particulars and seek agreement. If thats not possible then a mediation lawyer would be appointed to further try to reach agreement, meeting you both to discuss any options and make suggestions, then finally a judge will make decisions if you cant between you agree.

Hope things work out for you and your child. Hope he sees sense and relises that he cant continue in a negative way and that together you both need to provide a stable enviroment for your child to be happy.

I did tryed to explain how daughter feels and ect.but he thinks its a lai,that Im trying just control things.
he wouldnt go to mediation,as he thinks its a time wasting.He all ready threated me with a court.
Im just really strested about it.I know he is her dad and always will be.But he just cant behave like this.
I dont want my daughter to go through all court mess.But looks no other way is available.
Thanks 4 answer.